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Not to mention how much happier and more effective you would be? The good news and its very good news is that you can get better about not putting things off, if you use the right strategy.

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Figuring out which strategy to use depends on why you are procrastinating in the first place:. Reason 1 You are putting something off because you are afraid you will screw it up. There are two ways to look at any task.

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You can do something because you see it as a way to end up better off than you are now — as an achievement or accomplishment. As in, if I complete this project successfully I will impress my boss, or if I work out regularly I will look amazing. Psychologists call this a promotion focus — and research shows that when you have one, you are motivated by the thought of making gains, and work best when you feel eager and optimistic. Well, if you are afraid you will screw up on the task in question, this is not the focus for you.

Anxiety and doubt undermine promotion motivation, leaving you less likely to take any action at all. For the prevention-focused, successfully completing a project is a way to keep your boss from being angry or thinking less of you.

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When you are focused on avoiding loss, it becomes clear that the only way to get out of danger is to take immediate action. The more worried you are, the faster you are out of the gate.

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Go on, scare the pants off yourself. It feels awful, but it works.

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After all, no one is tying you to your bed every morning. We need to be eager to do so. Yes, on some level you need to be committed to what you are doing — you need to want to see the project finished, or get healthier, or get an earlier start to your day. In fact, as Burkeman points out, many of the most prolific artists, writers, and innovators have become so in part because of their reliance on work routines that forced them to put in a certain of hours a day, no matter how uninspired or, in many instances, hungover they might have felt.

The rest of us just show up and get to work. There is nothing stopping you. Too often, we try to solve this particular problem with sheer will: Next time, I will make myself start working on this sooner. Of course, if we actually had the willpower to do that, we would never put it off in the first place. Studies show that people routinely overestimate their capacity for self-control, Wanting to really try this rely on it too often to keep them out of hot water.

Do yourself a favor, and embrace the fact that your willpower is limited, and that it may not always be up to the challenge of getting you to do things you find difficult, tedious, or otherwise awful. Instead, use if-then planning to get the job done. No do I really have to do this now? You have 1 free article s left this month.

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Heidi Grant is a social psychologist who researches, writes, and speaks about the science of motivation. She received her doctorate in social psychology from Columbia University. Partner Center.

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