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The story is told about Dorothy Parker, poet and theater critic, who occupied a small, dingy cubbyhole of an office in the Metropolitan Opera House building in New York City. At that time she had few friends and no visitors. As a result, she became lonely and depressed.
When the writer came to paint her name on the office door, she persuaded him to write instead the word Gentlemen. At one time or another, everyone experiences loneliness. This is not only true of singles and the recently divorced, but married couples as well. Even writers of Scripture experienced severe periods of loneliness. And Jesus himself experienced abandonment, "All of them deserted him and fled" Mk. Although loneliness is a part of being human, the pain of loneliness does not need to be a permanent desolate prison of isolation.
Here are strategies to combat loneliness and develop a fuller, richer life. The first step out of loneliness begins by prayerfully conducting an examination of conscience. Many individuals have been disappointed and hurt early in life by people important to them. As a result, they have an established pattern of operating like the Lone Ranger.
Due to past hurts, they protectively remain distant and detached from people who want to be their friends. Consistently, they sabotage any possibility of friendship. Set aside some time to meditate, reflect, and pray about your loneliness. During that time, here are some key questions to ask:.
If you come up with a "yes" to most or all of these questions, you are probably creating barriers to intimacy. Make a commitment to change. Ask for God's help. Then begin taking small steps for opening yourself up and connecting with people. Studies show there is a close connection between loneliness and the absence of self-disclosure.
People who do not share themselves or talk about their inner feelings are more lonely than those who do. An effective way to decrease loneliness is to increase self-disclosure.
However, in order not to be hurt by the sharing of inner feelings, it is wise to follow some basic rules says Dan Kiley, psychologist from Tucson, Arizona, author of Living Together: Feeling Alone. Kiley offers these suggestions for increasing self-disclosure:.
Your soul may not give you a clear answer, but you'll get a hint. Follow it. Then, talk about yesterday's feelings before sharing today's. If you feel good, share more feelings; if not, back away. If he or she is supportive, that's a good. If he or she is critical or judgmental, that's a bad.
People struggling with loneliness should look critically at their home surroundings. Do they bring feelings of serenity, peace, and joy? Is it a good, comfortable, soothing place to be? One man, divorced four years, lives surrounded by boxes from the move out of his marital home. His loneliness and depression are deepened by coming home to reminders of endings rather than new beginnings. What a waste! They could be surrounding themselves with symbols of self-love right now!
Why wait? Create a home that you look forward to coming home to.The Cure for a Lonely Heart - by Casey Parnell (LYRIC VIDEO)
It doesn't require a lot of money to do that. It requires creativity and self-respect. The prophets and Jesus along with today's poets, writers, artists, and mystics have always done their most creative work in solitude.
An effective way to value time alone is to view it positively. Try to understand that solitude can be a great time of personal healing and creativity. I take time by myself every day, and I notice that my spirituality and creativity emerge during or after the time I spend alone.Joseph Prince - The Cure For Your Lonely Heart—Comparing John 3 \u0026 John 4 - 1 Dec 2013
A cycle of isolation can be effectively broken by making the first move. Rather than waiting for an invitation to dinner, invite someone to have dinner with you in your home. Rather than waiting for an invitation to a party, why not throw the party yourself? This is, in fact, a biblical way to live We are consistently called to serve others: "We want you to be generous also in this service of love," writes Paul 2 Cor. And the author of Hebrews advises: "Do not neglect to do good and to share what you have, for such sacrifices are pleasing to God" Heb.
There is a wonderful old adage: 'Have at least eight friends. If you need something, seven of them will be busy! One of the most effective antidotes to loneliness is in helping others. The Bible says there is healing through helping: "Those who are kind reward themselves" Prov. Try volunteering your time at a shelter, soup kitchen, hospice, or other social service agency.
You will not only take the focus off yourself but you will see others battling greater issues than yours. Volunteering can also lead to important friendships with people who share a similar concern. Flowers, a psychologist from Macon, Georgia. Having direct contact with folks with real problems is a big stress-reliever. Volunteering also feels wonderful.
In the end, perhaps the best advice for reducing loneliness is that offered by Ralph Waldo Emerson who stated simply, "The only way to have a friend is to be one. Victor M. Parachin is an ordained minister and counselor.Cure for a lonely heart
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